“What I need is a cheerleader, not a critic.” This man was talking about his wife. Part of the problem in their marriage from his perspective centered around the fact that when he got home from a hard day’s work she met him with a barrage of complaints and criticism. He said, “I get enough of that at work. When things go wrong, I catch it from all sides. At home I need a cheerleader, not a critic. If a man can’t find peace at home, where can he find it?”
There are scores of people, both men and women, who feel the same way about their spouse. They have emotional needs that are not being met in their marriage. Their marriage, instead of helping the problem, is adding to it.
If this is your problem, you would do well to rem...